Finding a way to meet like-minded people and decide if we want to invest time going deeper with them…I love the idea so much,” she said.
Hillary Frank, host and creator of the Longest Shortest Time podcast, says some of the things she’s heard time and again from listeners are that it’s hard to find friends, and that what moms want most from each other is support.
“I had a couple of requirements for my mom friends,” says Frank.
At her first event a few months ago, Hieatt met another local mom, Brandy Griffin.The two have since joined forces to hold fun, local events for moms who are looking for connection.Frank, the host of the WNYC parenting podcast “The Longest Shortest Time,” was worried that the weather might keep women from leaving their plastic-toy-strewn homes for the Bell House, a club where she was holding her first live event, “Speed Dating for Mom Friends.” The twenty-five-dollar admission included a cocktail, snacks, and plenty of promising new adult playdates. “I’d like to meet someone from the senior set,” Allison B.(Oliver, thirteen months), a personal stylist, said. Beth Pappas, a professional speed-dating host, who had on black stilettos and a spaghetti-strap top, took the stage. “Interior row stays seated, exterior row rotates.” She banged a butter knife against a gong. ”The room erupted with the sound of women talking.“I have four children, and I don’t work,” Chana M., an Orthodox Jew with red lipstick, told her tablemate. Lee I., an environmental planner with the mayor’s office, brought up her daughter’s love of singing.“When you’re looking for a real mom friend, you’re looking for a rare combination of things—someone who’s got a compatible personality to yours and someone who will support your parenting choices.
That either means you and your friend approach parenting in exactly the same way—not likely—or you are open minded about your differences as parents,” said Frank.“If I see someone breast-feeding at the park, I think, Oh, good, she’s not a nanny,” she said. K., but then she starts badmouthing vaccines and I’m, like, Red flag! Others hit the bar for another round of Long Island Iced Teas. ”“How many times a day do you want to throw your kid out the window? (Julian, three years) asked a young woman who was sipping water. “In a speed-dating setting, you’re sharing the best parts of yourself in just a few minutes, but I think that’s an efficient way to gather enough information to know whether or not you’d want to talk to someone for a second time,” Harrison said.“As moms, our plates are so full that we need two plates.It’s really just meant to be a fun thing that helps moms find someone that they connect with, helping them build their village and introducing them to someone they may want to go through this journey alongside,” said Hieatt. Heather Harrison, who is author of ‘The Mommy Psychologist,’ thinks the idea is pure genius.