“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.
Calling her relationship with Russian men “convoluted”, the daring New-Yorker goes on describing the peculiarities of the local dating etiquette.
She grew up in the States but due to her heritage speaks fluent Russian.
“I love (and hate) dating Russian men“, states Diana, and then goes on to explain why.“The macho guys from my home country leave me torn between my feminist beliefs and my sexual desires.” Her story begins with the description of a fight for “her honour” by a Russian boyfriend, because in the midst of a drunken party, another guy tried to touch her.The liberal arts graduate decided to explore her homeland by living there, and temporarily moved to Russia in 2010.To provide for herself, she was teaching English in St. “The first thing that you’ll notice when you get to Russia is that the women are astoundingly beautiful and immaculately presented”, she says.“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman wants a man who’s a gentleman at dinner and an animal in bed. This the Russian man understands,” writes the New York feminist born in the USSR.
Maybe brutal love making and total disregard to his partner’s feelings (and satisfaction) is attractive to someone who is used to gentle care, but I would stick to my opinion that the majority of Russian men are not as skilled in the bedroom department as their western counterparts, who took time to learn a thing or two about female pleasure.
“You do not meet a Russian man, you are chosen by one,” proclaims Bruk.
I have been trying to bring this idea home for years, but she expressed it so much better.
In Russia, it is expected from a male to physically defend his lady, or be considered a coward. ), the boyfriend approached his shaking American dame demanding explanations as to what she did that a strange guy felt comfortable enough to grab her, and why did she talk to another chap without his outright permission.
Both drinking and violence are the core reasons why there are 106 boys to 100 girls at birth in Russia, and only 86 males to 100 females in the total population.
Because there are large numbers of Russian and Ukrainian women seeking partners abroad, some observers assume that Slavic ladies dislike local men. Eastern European women exploring options of dating internationally are fond of Slavic men, they simply cannot find the one who fits their portrait of a good partner and at the same time likes them back.