Similarly it's not chocolate or other unhealthy foods that contributes to obesity, but the act of eating it - a good place to start is removing the temptation in the first place.
Whether or not my partner agrees with me, I hope that she will understand it's ultimately in the best interest of our relationship.
It sounds like your partner, so far, is choosing to bring the past back. It certainly makes for interesting consideration for any relationship, particularly when discussing boundaries.She needs to do some thought experiments ("so if I do this now, what do I want to happen, what can realistically happen? It's difficult when one partner has a different view from the other as to what is acceptable to the wellbeing of that relationship.") to look ahead at where her actions will lead, then make choices, not go blindly forward. I'm interested in whether aspects of your research can be extrapolated further.Where there particular times when one partner sought out or re-established a lost connection, something that had lain dormant for some time? Or did the majority simply start banally and slip as communication increased?As people age, second chances can be lasting and wonderfully satisfying.
Friends from the past -- even estranged relatives -- can make life sweeter.
He and his wife are healing their marriage using the power of their religious beliefs: he had an affair with a lost love, despite his very happy marriage. Fact #5: Many people who want desperately to disengage from destructive lost love affairs admit that they, too, have addictive tendencies, such as smoking, drinking, gambling or other high risk behaviors.
The sexual hormonal highs of being in renewed contact with lost loves, plus anxiety/arousal hormones triggered by the secret affairs (including emotional affairs without sex), can lead to a craving for more and more contact, and withdrawal lows when there is no contact.
If someone is married or in a committed relationship, he or she may have to learn to live with those feelings, accept them as part of having a life's history, and dismiss them as "old stuff" each time they come up. (see also Fact #9: If a married person is contacted by a lost love, the old flame may have written with innocent, although naive, intentions.
As long as the married person is guarded and stays sure that he or she is not interested in resuming anything, one or two emails, known to the spouse, of catching up on the years apart probably won't hurt.
Emotional voyeurism - yes I think that this is an appropriate term for what often happens with social networking sites when looking at recent ex partners or long lost loves.