Tolerating mistresses validates machismo for a simple reason: it is not a two-way street.
And what the evidence reveals on this topic likely won’t be welcome news for those of you with Cuban lovers or spouses. Often, as one reader pointed out, this is a complicit arrangement – more up front and out in the open than on the side.Lest you think I’m about to malign an entire country and culture, let me clarify: there are exceptions to the rule – always – and if you’re in a relationship with a Cuban and reading this, you may be one of those lucky few. I know men who have been married 20 years (or longer) and have kept the same mistress all the while. In many cases, there’s little care taken to hide it – friends, family, colleagues are all hip to the scenario.Still, Those Faithful Cubans is one of my all-time most popular posts and people search daily for information on the issue as the above – actual search terms from the last week – illustrate.Honestly, I do try to extend the benefit of the doubt in this regard, but one thing I’ve learned in my job as a health journalist here is to be experiential- and evidenced-based (see note 1).Just like anybody else there are the good and the bad. But I also know Jamaican men, both inside and outside of my family, who treat their partners like queens.
Do I know Jamaican men who have treated their women with little to no respect? They’ve sacrificed to make life better for their wives and their children.Just as soon as you think you have a group of people pegged, that’s when someone will flip it on you.It’s no secret that Jamaican men don’t have the best reputation when it comes to dating.Cuban machismo is more subtle (and therefore potentially more dangerous, since you’re not always quite sure what you’re dealing with).It has to be – Cuban women are too empowered, strong-willed, and educated to put up with that shit.How a man treats a woman has very little to do with his country of origin and more about how he was taught to treat women by the men and even women who raised him.